How do I deal with adversity? We each deal with adversity and conflict differently. There is no right way to manage the emotions and thoughts that occur as we face difficult situations. That being said, what works for you, may not work for the next person. In this writing activity, we will learn how to identify our method for dealing with adversity. With this clarity, we can better manage ourselves and spot when we are improperly using our personal coping tools on other people. The importance of this topic is explained in this article.

This is a writing activity that will take approximately 20 minutes to complete. We suggest doing this activity several times. The more you understand how you function, the greater control you will have over your behaviors. This process will also make you an excellent communicator in all your relationships!

Step 1: Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Then try to recall a situation that brought about some difficult emotions. Maybe it was an argument, or perhaps a project didn’t go your way.

Step 2: Write down how you dealt with the situation. Did you go for a walk and take some personal time? Did you talk with some friends or write about it? Do your best to include as much detail as possible.

Step 3: How did the actions in Step 2 make you feel? Did you feel relieved? Were the same emotions and thoughts still present? Were they less intense? Do your best to recall the impact of Step 2.

Step 4: Was there something else you would have done differently to process that situation? If so, write down what it would have been. What would have made it different?

Step 5: Take a moment to think about what works best for you. Ask yourself why does this work for you? You may not arrive at the answer, but the question is worthwhile.

This activity is one of the most critical tools in relationships. If you want a healthy relationship at home or in the office, you need to master this skill for yourself. If you do, you will understand how to use this same type of introspection to help the people you care about. It will also prevent arguments and miscommunications.